Reblog: Gay Sex is All Wrong in Fanfic: reverie_indigo

[shy_magpie]

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1. What I mean by wrong: What's wrong with sex in fanfic is that what you think is wrong in in fanfic sex is not wrong. There is nothing that you can write in fanfic that is wrong. What you choose to write is absolutely fine, no matter what it is. What  is wrong is when authors are made to feel that certain things are required, when they should not be. There is nothing wrong with BDSM - quite the opposite - but BDSM is hotter if the author is aware he or she is writing it. If not, key emotional and physical reactions might be skipped over that take the reader out of the story.

2. There are a few anatomically questionable things that pop up a lot in fanfic. Things that I consider "wrong" are labelled with *** These are not terribly important, but if something anatomically questionable comes up, or something that is a fetish pops up constantly as "standard", it can take a reader out of the moment. They are not strictly "wrong" because everyone is different and there may very well be people for who these things are very "right". But in general, not, and so if they are included a writer might want to highlight emotional and physical reactions in these cases.

I'm trusting you lot to follow the link, so I only copied the bits of the intro that I thought gave the best sense of what the post(article?) is about, rather than copying all the important bits..

Basically a description of how fanfic often differs from how m/m sex usually happens in the real world, as written by a someone who has actually done it. Useful info like 1-2-3 fingers then dick is not actually standard practice but lube is more important than written. I think fanfic has gotten a bit better about not using freaking peppermint oil or icy hot as lube since 2014 but its definitely jarring enough to a reader who knows the effects of those substances to read that its still worth emphasis. I found the description of physical sensation especially enlightening especially as some of the tropes are at odds with how things feel for actual prostates.

Comments

[peoriapeoriawhereart]

A classic for some slash writers is Minotaur's Sex Tips for Slash Writers He has passed on so new questions are from a longish time ago.

[shipperslist]

I read from somewhere (tumbleh?) that the reason why we female slash writers write like we do (as in unrealistic gay sex) is that it’s wish-fullfillment. We write out the things we’d like our partners to notice and how we’d like to be treated. (If I remember correctly, it was a reaction to the somewhat common idea of the bottom getting off and the top saying he doesn’t have to finish, seeing the other coming was enough.)

But it was a good read. Thanks for linking!