Edited to add: I just realized I never actually put my name and pronouns. I'm Magpie (they/them)! I am fine with nicknames as long its not something gendered like Maggie.
Adapted(er cut & pasted) from this viral post by![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
trascendenza
I welcome all of the following types of comments on ANY of my entries:
• Single or two word comments, e.g. , woo!, yay, yes, no, please, thanks, absolutely, agreed, seconded, so much, no way, etc.
• "+1" or Facebook style "like".
• Otherwise brief comments, e.g. single sentences.
• A comment that is a punctuation mark(s) to let me know you read, e.g. a period, an asterisk.
• A comment that is a punctuation mark(s) to express your response, e.g. an exclamation mark or question mark.
• A comment that is an emoticon(s) or emoji to express your response, e.g. \o/, <3, :), :(, :-D, :-P, etc.
• Long, wordy comments. Rambling is totally okay.
• Sequential commentary. It's totally okay to comment about one thing as you read it, then another thing in a separate comment, then a third thing after you've chewed on it for a while and feel ready to talk about it.
• Incoherent comments. My comments/entries frequently fall into this territory, and I totally get it!
• Talking amongst yourselves in the comments is fine. I like creating a place where people get to interact.
• Image comments. If you feel more comfortable commenting with a .gif or image than text, please feel free. I may even reply in kind :)
I also welcome:
• Comments on older entries, access-locked or public.
• Comments on VERY OLD entries, access-locked or public.
• Comments from people who are not subscribed to me.
• Comments from people who I’ve never met.
• Comments from people who haven’t talked to me in awhile.
• Comments from people who’ve never talked to me.
TL;DR: Feel free to comment with what feels good and comfortable to you, whether that’s leaving a !!! or an essay. I love receiving all types of comments and am always pleased to receive a notification in my inbox. However, if you don't feel called to comment, or can't for whatever reason, that's also totally fine. No pressure, no obligations.
Things I do NOT welcome on my journal:
• homophobia
• transphobia
• racism
• antisemitism
• Islamophobia
• ableism
• other bigotry.
• Pretty much anything to do with Israel, its been used too many times as a front for antisemitism. Jewish or not I have a right to have no more debate or insight into Israel than Ireland.
• Most conspiracy theories for much the same reason. Even Flat Earth and Lizard people conspiracy stuff tends to get to antisemitism pretty quickly. (pro tip nearly any mention of Einstein, the word "protocols" outside of computer talk or "Zion" outside referencing the Matrix, in conspiracy talk is right up there with Rothchild as a not so subtle code for Jews)
How I comment & reply to comments:
• I default to exclamation marks because its hard to convey tone in text. I probably come across overly perky, but better perky than angry, I figure.
• I am currently trying to respond to every comment but I don't know if I will be keeping that up. There are a number of factors that go into this (time, energy, ability to say anything relevant), but probably the biggest one is not always being sure what to say/what types of comments are or aren't okay/etc.
• I am likelier to comment when: 1) I'm aware you're okay with short or not super-coherent comments, 2) I have some kind of confirmation that you're interested in hearing from me, 3) you are/seem to be a person who likes receiving comments.
• I mostly try to reply to comments.
• I sometimes take a long time to reply to comments due to my brain not cooperating, getting busy, or things just falling through the cracks. I do not put off replying to a comment as a way to signal that I disliked it.
• I sometimes do not reply to comments, due to the aforementioned issues, and almost always feel guilty about it (but am trying to get better at letting go). I do not intentionally ignore a comment as a way to signal I disliked it.
• I will occasionally give myself a commenting amnesty, or disable comments on an entry (more on that below) as a way to cope with brain issues.
• You are never obligated to reply to a reply, nor to write longer-form than you wish.
• If you would like a response to a comment, I encourage you to let me know. “I would appreciate a response to this if possible,” etc. is totally fine with me.
• If I have forgotten to reply to something you want a reply to, a poke is totally okay.
Disabled comments on my journal
I reserve the right to post things and not talk about them. I will try to be clear why in the post but either way I ask that you respect that. Please don't try to get around that by commenting about the disabled post on the next post etc.
things that are helpful when I am upset
• In general, when I'm upset, there are a two things that are very helpful to me: to know I'm not alone (when I'm upset is when I'm most likely to directly request comments/hugs) and that what I'm feeling is okay and understandable. But the top thing is feeling seen/recognized/accepted. So even if you and I have never spoken, and even if what I'm discussing is very personal/intense, I'd still welcome a comment. Hugs, ♥♥♥s, "I'm here," "I've been through something similar," "That sucks," "Here are some things that may help," "You've got this," etc. are all good for me.
• Other things that can help cheer me up (but are not necessary, so please don't feel pressured): cute .gifs are totally welcome or links to picspams of animals doing cute thing.
Linking to/quoting my entries
• If it’s public, it’s fair game. No need to ask.
• It’s access-locked, ask me.
• Please do not archive my work without asking me first.
Subscribe or unsubscribe at will, no introduction needed.
Whether or not people inform me they're subscribing/giving me access is their choice. If you're the type who prefers to introduce yourself, cool. If you're the type who just prefers to hit the "subscribe" button, cool. I'm fine either way.
I think lurking is A+.
I don't believe that anyone ever need feel obligated to comment if it just adds anxiety. I am very pro-taking care of yourself as you need to. I believe that we all have different ways of interacting with fandom, and I think that lurkers are just as important as producers (the ranting I could do about this, don't even get me started) and I will take offense if anyone badmouths lurkers in my space.
Access
I grant access to everyone I subscribe to.
I am mostly self taught in HTML, so please let me know (nicely) if I get anything wrong in my posts on the subject. If I've done something hurtful or ignorant: Please feel free to let me know, either in a reply or private message.
Regarding the issue itself, if you're able to be gentle about explaining what I've done wrong, I'd appreciate it. But if not, I will work out my reaction in an appropriate setting before responding to you, unless you specifically request that I don't respond to you, in which case I will do my best to respect that.
In case the above gives a different impression, let me state clearly: I am actively interested in knowing if I've done hurtful or ignorant things. I want to be as conscious about my actions and behavior as much as I possibly can, and value that information and feedback so that I can make changes as needed.
I am asexual, agender, and have ADHD, so I may post a fair bit about those topics. ADHD means I tend to over focus on a particular topic for a while then move on. Also as of Feb, 2020ish figured out anxiety and Aromantic go on that list but am still working out what those mean, and what those mean to me.
Regarding content notes/warnings: Let me know if I need to tag anything! I try to put most things under a clearly marked cut; so I'd like to extra emphasize that if there's a particular topic that it would be helpful for me to note/warn, I'd really love to know. If I understand correctly, I should also be able to set up filters so you don't have to see certain topics, just let me know so I can set it up.
Adapted(er cut & pasted) from this viral post by
trascendenzaI welcome all of the following types of comments on ANY of my entries:
• Single or two word comments, e.g. , woo!, yay, yes, no, please, thanks, absolutely, agreed, seconded, so much, no way, etc.
• "+1" or Facebook style "like".
• Otherwise brief comments, e.g. single sentences.
• A comment that is a punctuation mark(s) to let me know you read, e.g. a period, an asterisk.
• A comment that is a punctuation mark(s) to express your response, e.g. an exclamation mark or question mark.
• A comment that is an emoticon(s) or emoji to express your response, e.g. \o/, <3, :), :(, :-D, :-P, etc.
• Long, wordy comments. Rambling is totally okay.
• Sequential commentary. It's totally okay to comment about one thing as you read it, then another thing in a separate comment, then a third thing after you've chewed on it for a while and feel ready to talk about it.
• Incoherent comments. My comments/entries frequently fall into this territory, and I totally get it!
• Talking amongst yourselves in the comments is fine. I like creating a place where people get to interact.
• Image comments. If you feel more comfortable commenting with a .gif or image than text, please feel free. I may even reply in kind :)
I also welcome:
• Comments on older entries, access-locked or public.
• Comments on VERY OLD entries, access-locked or public.
• Comments from people who are not subscribed to me.
• Comments from people who I’ve never met.
• Comments from people who haven’t talked to me in awhile.
• Comments from people who’ve never talked to me.
TL;DR: Feel free to comment with what feels good and comfortable to you, whether that’s leaving a !!! or an essay. I love receiving all types of comments and am always pleased to receive a notification in my inbox. However, if you don't feel called to comment, or can't for whatever reason, that's also totally fine. No pressure, no obligations.
Things I do NOT welcome on my journal:
• homophobia
• transphobia
• racism
• antisemitism
• Islamophobia
• ableism
• other bigotry.
• Pretty much anything to do with Israel, its been used too many times as a front for antisemitism. Jewish or not I have a right to have no more debate or insight into Israel than Ireland.
• Most conspiracy theories for much the same reason. Even Flat Earth and Lizard people conspiracy stuff tends to get to antisemitism pretty quickly. (pro tip nearly any mention of Einstein, the word "protocols" outside of computer talk or "Zion" outside referencing the Matrix, in conspiracy talk is right up there with Rothchild as a not so subtle code for Jews)
How I comment & reply to comments:
• I default to exclamation marks because its hard to convey tone in text. I probably come across overly perky, but better perky than angry, I figure.
• I am currently trying to respond to every comment but I don't know if I will be keeping that up. There are a number of factors that go into this (time, energy, ability to say anything relevant), but probably the biggest one is not always being sure what to say/what types of comments are or aren't okay/etc.
• I am likelier to comment when: 1) I'm aware you're okay with short or not super-coherent comments, 2) I have some kind of confirmation that you're interested in hearing from me, 3) you are/seem to be a person who likes receiving comments.
• I mostly try to reply to comments.
• I sometimes take a long time to reply to comments due to my brain not cooperating, getting busy, or things just falling through the cracks. I do not put off replying to a comment as a way to signal that I disliked it.
• I sometimes do not reply to comments, due to the aforementioned issues, and almost always feel guilty about it (but am trying to get better at letting go). I do not intentionally ignore a comment as a way to signal I disliked it.
• I will occasionally give myself a commenting amnesty, or disable comments on an entry (more on that below) as a way to cope with brain issues.
• You are never obligated to reply to a reply, nor to write longer-form than you wish.
• If you would like a response to a comment, I encourage you to let me know. “I would appreciate a response to this if possible,” etc. is totally fine with me.
• If I have forgotten to reply to something you want a reply to, a poke is totally okay.
Disabled comments on my journal
I reserve the right to post things and not talk about them. I will try to be clear why in the post but either way I ask that you respect that. Please don't try to get around that by commenting about the disabled post on the next post etc.
things that are helpful when I am upset
• In general, when I'm upset, there are a two things that are very helpful to me: to know I'm not alone (when I'm upset is when I'm most likely to directly request comments/hugs) and that what I'm feeling is okay and understandable. But the top thing is feeling seen/recognized/accepted. So even if you and I have never spoken, and even if what I'm discussing is very personal/intense, I'd still welcome a comment. Hugs, ♥♥♥s, "I'm here," "I've been through something similar," "That sucks," "Here are some things that may help," "You've got this," etc. are all good for me.
• Other things that can help cheer me up (but are not necessary, so please don't feel pressured): cute .gifs are totally welcome or links to picspams of animals doing cute thing.
Linking to/quoting my entries
• If it’s public, it’s fair game. No need to ask.
• It’s access-locked, ask me.
• Please do not archive my work without asking me first.
Subscribe or unsubscribe at will, no introduction needed.
Whether or not people inform me they're subscribing/giving me access is their choice. If you're the type who prefers to introduce yourself, cool. If you're the type who just prefers to hit the "subscribe" button, cool. I'm fine either way.
I think lurking is A+.
I don't believe that anyone ever need feel obligated to comment if it just adds anxiety. I am very pro-taking care of yourself as you need to. I believe that we all have different ways of interacting with fandom, and I think that lurkers are just as important as producers (the ranting I could do about this, don't even get me started) and I will take offense if anyone badmouths lurkers in my space.
Access
I grant access to everyone I subscribe to.
I am mostly self taught in HTML, so please let me know (nicely) if I get anything wrong in my posts on the subject. If I've done something hurtful or ignorant: Please feel free to let me know, either in a reply or private message.
Regarding the issue itself, if you're able to be gentle about explaining what I've done wrong, I'd appreciate it. But if not, I will work out my reaction in an appropriate setting before responding to you, unless you specifically request that I don't respond to you, in which case I will do my best to respect that.
In case the above gives a different impression, let me state clearly: I am actively interested in knowing if I've done hurtful or ignorant things. I want to be as conscious about my actions and behavior as much as I possibly can, and value that information and feedback so that I can make changes as needed.
I am asexual, agender, and have ADHD, so I may post a fair bit about those topics. ADHD means I tend to over focus on a particular topic for a while then move on. Also as of Feb, 2020ish figured out anxiety and Aromantic go on that list but am still working out what those mean, and what those mean to me.
Regarding content notes/warnings: Let me know if I need to tag anything! I try to put most things under a clearly marked cut; so I'd like to extra emphasize that if there's a particular topic that it would be helpful for me to note/warn, I'd really love to know. If I understand correctly, I should also be able to set up filters so you don't have to see certain topics, just let me know so I can set it up.
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